The "Friend Zone"

How in the world does one get out of the dreaded, awful place known as the "friend zone"?

Girls do it to guys, guys do it to girls, nobody likes it, so why does it even exist?

I've been in the friend zone lots of times with guys over the years. In fact, I'm currently in the friend zone with a guy into and its driving me absolutely nuts. I guess you could chalk that up to the fact that once I'm in the friend zone I am clueless on how to get out. I try to be the perfect mix between the sexy hookup, the cool sporty friend, and the sensitive girlfriend material. So what's the deal?

I consulted one of my best girlfriends on the topic and the only solution she came up with was to jump their bones. For some girls this works, but I know for a fact that I'm not one of those girls.

I have come to learn from experience that men are afraid of commitment, so your strategy has to be well-thought out. But what's the best way to go about it?

I would love to hear from some guys on this one. What types of things put girls in you friend zone? Is there any way they can get out of it? We need some advice!!

Long Distance

Does it work?

Long distance is typically one of those automatic 'no' things that pops into one's head when thinking about a possible relationship. For the most part, long distance is hard, and it automatically turns people off.

However, I can't really talk - I was in a long distance relationship for a year. Given that mine failed, I have a more biased opinion than most.

From what I have seen and heard, most long distance relationships don't work. However, I know those that have. For example, I have a friend here at school who went on spring break and now has a long distance boyfriend in Pennsylvania. One of my good friends has been dating a girl for five years, even though he lives in the United States and she lives in the UK.

I guess my question is, does it work? And, if it does, how? What makes a long distance relationship worth it?

Some people I've talked to say a deeper connection, some say trust, others say friendship; but what is it really that makes long distance work?

Thoughts?

The Windy City

So I just got home this afternoon from a weekend in Chicago, which is, in my opinion, one of the most fabulous cities on earth. The scenery is beautiful, the attractions are fun, and the shopping is magnificent - but then again that may be just me...I could stand in Tiffany&Co for hours and never get bored.

I did get a first hand taste of why they call it the Windy City, which would probably be a lot more enjoyable when the weather is warmer. 30 degrees and windy doesn't really work for a southern girl - especially on spring break.

So that's just the update for now I suppose - I'm putting some pictures below of my trip. Enjoy!

a really neat elephant sculpture near the Willis Tower

one of my favorite pics from the trip...so many colors!!

chicago at night <3